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おはよ!Kaneko's story - Love and Marriage chapter (Final part of Chapter 2)

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In Mr Ikeda's novel The human Revolution, Josei Toda is quoted Ikeda's novel The human Revolution, Josei Toda is quoted as saying at your wedding that Daisaku was like his child, and if Daisaku's bride should be a bad wife who ruins him, Toda would expel her from the organization. He said that he would do all in his power to look out for these two young people and that he wanted them to understand this and accept his best wishes. The text continues, " Toda's words carried with them the affection of a strict father."

My husband talked about our marriage like this: "A husband and wife are one- the man is the legs and the woman is the body. The man is the arrow and the woman is the bow. Do you see what I mean?"

We have never lost sight of our common objectives. To maintain the enthusiasm of our youth throughout our lives, we have discovered that mutual encouragement is essential.

My husband had weak constitution since childhood. When we married, he looked like skin and bones. He also had a constant low-grade fever. What's more, after we married, his schedule was far busier than we can imagined it would be,he did not have time to give much thought or take care of his health

Mr Toda advised me, "I want you to take good care of Daisaku." He said: "Health is a priority. Think about health first."

My focus point of my life and the most important task I could perform for my husband was to support him quietly from the background so he could devote himself to his work.

A healthy diet is the foundation for a healthy life, so I paid a great deal of attention to our daily diet. My husband was born and raised in what used to be Edo, the oldest and the most traditional part of Tokyo and his parents were engaged in the edible seaweed business. He loved salmon, mackerel, salted squid, kommbu and pressed seaweed. He had a habit of eating foods he liked for days on end so he would eat mackerel, for instance, every day for an entire week. This made it easy on me. Still I made sure that he got a balanced diet. My husband would rarely come home in time for dinner, but I made a habit of squeezing vegetables, of which he was not found into is late evening snack. He praised the way I glazed the poached mackerel and als found of a particular crab fish.

My husband always focuses is whole attention body and soul on his dialogues and lectures. When they over, he seems exhasuted. After his speaking engagements, I usually give him a massage.


After his resignation as Soka Gakkai president in April 1979. we were deluged with letters from Soka Gakkai members. I read each one and wrote a response and my shoulders became stiff from all the writing. I was tapping on my shoulders to releive the tension, and he quietly came over and massaged my shoulders. That was the first time in thirty years of marriage! I was amazed at the strength in his hands. I had no idea that he was so strong.

When Daisaku was young, he pushed his body beyond its limits everyday. He had adhesions in his lungs and there was never a day when he woke up in the morning feeling really well. Given that he had been so sickly growing up, his strength was all the more unexpected.

Do you still have the mirror referred to in your husband's essay "A piece of Mirror"?

Yes. The piece of mirror is still stored safely in the small paulownia box. My husband describe in detail the history related to the mirror but he did not discuss it as thoroughly. Still, the moment he said, "My mother's mirror has been watching over me," I thought to myself, "This is a person who has experienced more than the ordinary person's share of hardships." For the first time, I could sense what it meant to him.

The essay explained that, by looking in the mirror fragment, the young Ikeda realized that his health was suffering and threat he should pay attention to his diet. On the other hand, when he felt happy, he could see it in his face, and this would make him start whistling. When he saw himself in the morning as he was combing his hair, he said the mirror would remind him of his mother's quiet way of showing her concern for him and he would whisper to himself, "Good morning Mother."

(Maorin type until here and naturally breakdown with tears.)

The essay includes a similar anecdote about Mr Toda, who received a light coat known as atsushi from his mother when he left his home town to make a living elsewhere. Mr Toda kept the coat, made by hand with painstaking effort and loving care, with him troughout his life. It survived the fires of war. Mr Toda was found of saying, "As long as I have this atsushi with me, I will be safe."

I have a strong sense that my husband must have regarded the mirror in the same way.


The next three chapter to end Kaneko's Story. (The woman behind Sensei Ikeda)
Chapter 3 - Building a Happy home
Chapter 4 - Living with a Trailblazing Husband
Chapter 5 - The Smile Awared














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